What is a Master/slave Relationship?
In BDSM, a Master/slave (M/s) relationship is a beautiful, cherished connection where one person transfers authority and power to the other. Master leads and slave obeys and follows. Such a lifestyle is founded on good communication, respect and earned trust.
The extent to which control is given will depend on the parties involved. Although, it can be controversial as to whether one may have limits and still refer to themselves as M/s. Regardless, especially in the beginning, it’s strongly advisable to set limits and boundaries and to communicate in detail about all issues.
Every dynamic will look different, depending on the needs and wants of those involved. Some may be only service oriented, without any sexual connection or kink activities whilst others may prefer more of a guidance type role, whether part time or 24/7.
Whatever your preferences, here are some rules and ideas you may like to consider.
Short and Sweet Master/slave BDSM Rule Ideas
Here are some some quick rule ideas which have been submitted by others. If no name or title is mentioned, the person wished to remain anonymous.
Some are written in a formal way so you can simply add them to your contract or agreement if you have one. If not, use them for ideas any way you wish.
Sir’s responsibilities
Master must be a Teacher, Protector and Mentor to slave /sub.
~ Master Eros
slave’s happiness
Have times where slave can suggest or choose something for both Master and sub to do that she really wants and enjoys.
Again, it is important for the submissive to be happy.
Anticipatory service
Master’s expectations to be realistic so that slave can mostly achieve her duties or tasks.
Important that slave is happy.
slave’s position at home
At home, slave is always to be naked or one layer of clothing and some form of collar.
Why: slave always knows her position.
Master always has the last word
I believe in one rule, what I say is the last word! And any time we have lifestyle guest then everything is done in high protocol!
~ Master BJ
Caring for our children
Rule: His submissive will care for her/Their children above all else. She will see to their immediate needs and do her best to raise them to be kind, courteous and well mannered, as well as to be able to advocate for themselves in a respectful manner.
Why: Her duties and successes as a mother reflect not only upon her, but also upon her Master whom she takes pleasure in serving.
Readiness for Master
Slave must always be clean and shaved and pleasant smelling – perfumed.
Why: shows readiness for her Master to take her whenever he needs to or wants her.
Make Master proud
I use posture and dress codes, with hidden (or not) toys, clamps, etc.
It shows the pride My slave girl has to be her own self and serving me.
~ Meester W
Spanking rule
Anytime His submissive receives a swat to her ass she is to thank her Master and ask if she may have another please.
Since she is a masochist and enjoys the swats and spankings he gives, she is reminded of her place by having to express gratitude and request another every time.
Spicing up service
Master may expect sub to serve in public or private, alone or in front of others where such service is socially acceptable.
The appeal comes from the ability to spice things a little more than usual. To observe how far a sub will go to serve me, even in an indirect manner.
~ Michael
Respect & jokes
MASTER MUST respect his sub. It’s nonsense the idea only the sub must respect her Dominant.
Jokes, sometimes, are more handy than shouts.
SDe, Dom
Offer yourself
When I come home slave must always kneel before me and offer herself to me.
Why: shows obedience and devotion.
A rule for planning and control
I am restricted to monthly requests in writing for personal hygiene items, whatever I may need for the month.
Pushes me to plan ahead and reminds me that I am fully owned, Master is in control.
slave’s daily task schedule
Our favorite rule is that the submissive (lillepusen) is to obey every single task on the “daily task schedule” to the best of her abilities.
She will also send a nude photo (or if instructed in clothes) while preforming her duties.
She is also to greet her Master in a sitting posture, naked, in the hallway upon His arrival.
On failure to do so, or not met her tasks, she will be severely punished, and Master chooses how, where and the duration of the punishment.
~ Master Pravum and submissive lillepusen
Governing principles
Protect the Property
Obey without Hesitation
Be Transparent
Live, Laugh, Love: Trust, Respect, Care
~ Master Shack
My rule that supersedes all others
Rule 1 – The slave, as my property, is to take care of my property physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally at all times so as to be ready to serve at all times.
This rule supersedes all other instructions and rules, even those given by the Master.
~ DaSade
Master/slave Rules & Insights Submitted by Others
Cherry’s slave rules
Wear chastity device. Only free when used by Dominant.
Keep clean and tidy, ready to serve anytime.
Aim to be a 24/7 slave if possible.
slave is owned by Sir, which means He controls anything and she enjoys it or will learn to.
~ Cherry
Caring M/s Rules by Lord MacTire
Because I am a VERY Caring Dom/Master I INSIST on Rules that deal with the Health of My Slave. I make SURE She takes care of herself, takes her meds, Eats Correctly, Gets Enough Sleep, etc. but ALSO Enough LOVE and Comfort and Emotional Support!
I make sure she showers regularly, Shaves, Puts on Make-Up, because she is BEAUTIFUL and I want her to SEE and KNOW that at ALL TIMES and I want OTHERS to see that too!
When she LOOKS GOOD I KNOW She FEELS GOOD! And WANTS to take better care of herself! If SHE isn’t doing well… then I Don’t do well! 🙁
I also make it sort of a “Ritual” to shave her while she is Bound and Gagged, often Blind-folded as well, because in addition to the shaving I also tease her and “Edge” Her until she can’t stand it anymore! But she KNOWS She will ALWAYS be given HOT LOVE and made to CUM Over and Over again!
Her “TREAT” for Cumming as many times as I demand is My Cum for her to taste and enjoy. I’ve been told mine is sort of “Sweet” tasting?! 😀
ALSO I am a Dom that MUST FIRST Have “LOVE” and “TRUST” and “EMOTIONAL SECURITY” before the BDSM/Master-Slave stuff begins!
~ Lord MacTire
Training other slaves
slave recognizes and agrees that Master trains subs and slaves and there may come a time when He does so while the sub is under His patronage or while collared to Sir.
The submissive agrees to Master’s choice in training another slave and agrees to willfully participate in the training of such new sub to the level of hard limits described elsewhere herein.
~ Sir Lev
Use vs Abuse
slave agrees to be used by Master, sexually and otherwise, in any manner He sees fit.
Having said that the submissive recognizes, and the Dominant agrees, that she is NOT a doormat and that there is a difference between use and abuse, and while the former is undertaken by choice as a way of pleasing Sir, and thereby bringing joy and happiness to slave, the latter is unacceptable.
~ Sir Lev
slave’s veto
My favorite thing has been the slave’s Veto.
I am the Master in our relationship and my slave has had abusive partners in the past.
Having a dynamic is something she has both want and need for but it has been difficult for her to trust anyone.
The Veto has been a powerful tool for making her feel safe and able to remain in control where it matters most.
Having access to the Veto has even made it possible for her to feel open and safe in other aspects of her life and was a crucial part for helping her heal.
~ SB
Useful commands
Standby- A command I use for my girl to stand in the corner, nearby, attentive in case I need her.
KneelBy – Same as above, but in a kneeling position.
Purpose: sometimes she needs to be patient and pay attention to what I am doing, especially if I am preparing a scene. I want her to see and take note, but from a distance.
~ Master Magus
Massage training
slave agrees to undertake massage training, particularly erotic massage, via short-term course, video training or other such training.
Erotic massage training assists in providing focus to the submissive in her ability to relax her Dom and further serve Him and bring joy to Him which in turn brings joy to her.
Secondarily, should the sub show affinity and talent in massage, Sir agrees to provide formal massage training via a school or other form of formal training to assist slave in obtaining her massage certification/licensing.
Such in-depth training further allows the sub in pleasuring her Dom and also provides for a means of earning income should Sir become ill or otherwise disabled.
~ Sir Lev
Rule for making decisions
Master has final say on everything (final say on what we eat, what I wear, what I buy with my money even).
I am allowed to say what I’d like and why.
If I don’t add why I like my idea better than His then it’s His say and if I do say why I like my idea better than His I may or may not get what I wanted.
I like this rule because before I was in this relationship with my Master I’d always eventually hate most of my choices I made and now I don’t have to think of my many worries.
My Master worries for me and all I have to do is do as I’m told, no thinking.
~ pam
Check on Master and please
The primary duty of this Submissive is to please.
I shall attend to every physical and emotional need of my Dominant.
I shall behave as HIS rock, plaything, sex slave, fuck- toy, lover, personal assistant, comforter always & forever, whenever needed physically and emotionally, remain loyal and honest, as well as wait on my Dominant as desired.
I shall always check on my Lord & Master Dominant periodically, approximately every 2.5-3 hours to see if HE wants me to please HIM or if HE wants to use me however HE wants.
I shall use any means to get HIS attention and present myself using erotic means so HE only sees me.
The Lord & Master Dominant has the ability to disrupt this time schedule whenever HE wants.
Reasoning – it is vitally important that your submissive not only knows their place, but they must appreciate what they learn to crave so much. It is a joyful service that they embark on. Selfless yet rewarding for both.
~ LMD
Master/slave collar rule with a twist
With her day collar we have a rule. If the chain gets broken for any reason we have a conversation about our relationship and decide if we want to continue or end it. If we continue with our relationship we redo a whole new contract to our new preferences. Doing this I've noticed helps with building our communication.
What are your favorite rules you implement in your Master/slave dynamic?
Please add your comments below.
This is very interesting. I like the ideas presented.
My relationship isn’t as formal, but I am completely devoted. Sir gave me a necklace 2 years ago. It is not a formal day collar, but I see it as such. I do not wear it ALL the time but most all. In August I was very stressed at work and working 12-15 hours 26 days in a row and I lost the necklace. I feel Part of me is missing. Even if a replacement is purchased it will not be the same.
I keep hoping I’ll find it.
Thank you for your kind words Marcia. I’m so sorry to hear about your necklace. I really hope it turns up for you soon…and I also hope you got to have a much deserved break.
One of the things that have been said is the need to talk, and I wholeheartedly agree. I remember many years ago, a slave asked why I wanted her naked around the home, my answer was that it would remind her of her slavery, but more importantly, as she was shaved down below, I found her beautiful and loved looking at her. She accepted this.
I am just starting my first formal (contracted) M/S relationship.. we cannot do a daily / fulltime relationship due to our work, which has us in mining camp accommodation more than we are at home.
So we agreed on a 24hr period where we swap our roles each time we are back home from our work swings…
I am writing up my contract input this week and my Key Rules are :-
1. Slave MUST be open and willing to complete any sexual act the Master wishes to perform on them , have them perform to Master, or perform to themselves. If you don’t like doing said request… you will soon learn to love it. Or be punished accordingly.
2. Master will never place the Slave in a situation that could cause traumatic public humility or severe damage to the slaves mental health…. only realistic and achievable demands will be set for tasks when outside in gen pop. But…. anything is possible with the right outlook.
3. Punishments are compulsory/mandatory and instant, even in public areas if acceptable.
Repeat offences will be taken to discussion and punishments will be agreed on until they have outweighed the last punishment X2 AND SO FORTH.
We have agreed on using household chores, who drives 3 hours to work, shopping, random things like going to mow the neighbours yard but not talking to them at all. 😀 so we are keeping it entertaining while still being completely in control for the 24hours.
I have been naturally dominant my whole life when it comes to my women. I used ropes, socks, ties, whatever I could find to tie previous partners bent over a dinner table chair or my favourite, a computer chair with the back taken off, and tie there hands to the ankles with the woman’s feet on top of the chairs legs… so I can roll them around where I want them. But this will be the first time I have entered into a contract and will also be submitting to my partner for 24 hours as her slave… so I am looking forward to it, and would appreciate any tips or suggestions for us.
Cheers.