BDSM Rule Ideas – Quarantine, Social Distancing & Lockdown

23 BDSM Rule Ideas for Quarantine Home Confinement

Staying at home, social distancing, hearing and seeing the words “difficult times” everywhere you look is getting a little old and sending many of us stir-crazy.

Thankfully, restrictions are starting to ease in many places. Though some of you may still choose to self isolate.

Whether you are still impacted, keeping your power exchange strong may need a little more motivation and some fresh thinking.

A few weeks back, I reached out and asked what rules you are implementing during these, shall we say “times of opportunity”. I promised I would share the list of rules with you.

I apologize it took me a little longer than expected. The more I thought about it, a simple list just didn’t seem good enough.

So, here is a fun platform to get rule ideas, save your favorite ones and share yours to inspire others.

I hope you like it! More ideas and topics coming soon…

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Short and Sweet BDSM Rule Ideas (During and Post Lockdown)

Here are some some quick rule ideas for long distance (LDR) and live-in power exchange relationships.

They are written in a formal way so you can simply add them to your contract or agreement if you have one. If not, use them for ideas any way you wish.

Self Tying Challenge

The parties shall take turns in self tying and sending a photo of the tie to the other. The other party must recreate the self-tie the following day.

Genital Comforting Morning Ritual

Upon waking, the submissive will softly place their hand over their genitals whilst, at the same time, thanking the Dominant for their guidance. Masturbation is prohibited unless expressly allowed the night prior.

Why? Research has shown that touch is emotionally soothing. During this time of social distancing, it’s important for sub to feel connection. Plus, what better way to wake up than with a “naughty hug from your Dominant”.

Photos on Demand

The submissive will ensure he always dresses in a manner pleasing to the Dominant. The Dominant may request photos on demand at any time and may stipulate the body area or part to be photographed.

Subject to the submissive’s work commitments, the submissive must promptly comply with such a command, by taking a sexy, cheeky, funny or creative photo of himself or the area stipulated in the command and sending same to the Dominant within 20 minutes.

Reaching Out

The submissive shall reach out to family or friends at least twice per week via video conference or phone call. In particular, the submissive shall focus on those who are in isolation.

Libido Upkeep

The submissive is required to masturbate and bring herself to climax at least three times per week. Evidence in the form of a photo or video shall be forwarded to the Dominant within one hour of orgasm.

Your Panties, My Choice

A very common rule (never gets old).
The submissive shall take a photo of ALL her panties and shall forward such images to the Dominant as directed (WhatsApp, Email, Dropbox etc.), for the Dominant’s safekeeping.

By 8 a.m. each day, the Dominant shall select which pair is to be worn by the submissive that day. If no selection is communicated, no panties shall be worn.

By 9 a.m. each day, the submissive shall provide evidence of her compliance by taking a photo of herself wearing the selected panties (including the days where no selection is made).

Bad News Limitation

The submissive is limited to watching news programs or otherwise consuming any news content to only half an hour per day. This is to keep the submissive’s anxiety at bay whilst staying informed about current events.

Hunting for Outings

The submissive will research and stay abreast of opportunities for taking a trip, going to events (kinky or vanilla) and hosting/attending social gatherings post Covid-19 restrictions. The Dominant shall be briefed as and when such information comes to light. This is important for mental health (having something to look forward to).

Good Night Story

Daddy will read littlegirl a good night story of her choice every night, limited to 10 minutes of reading time or one chapter, whichever is shorter.

Due to time differences, Daddy will record the reading and send it to lg to listen to at bed time.

Brain Food

The submissive will keep her mind active using documentaries, articles, books, podcasts or other learning tools to learn about kink and non-kink related topics.

Each day she will report back on what she has learned that day, advising the Dominant of at least 3 interesting points.

Positivity Through Mindfulness

By midday each day, slave will send Master a message listing 3 things she is either grateful for or things she has noticed and found particularly intriguing or beautiful that day.

Rule Ideas Submitted by Others

Perving on others rules can not only bring ideas, but can also help to alleviate feelings of isolation. Seeing what others are doing during quarantine, current stay at home orders and social distancing can bring back a sense of normality, community and inspiration to your BDSM relationship, even if you are miles apart or online only.

If you don’t see a name at the end of the rule, it means the person didn’t wish to be identified.

FB Messenger

We don’t have protocols or rituals yet. But he has asked me to make sure I check in by face book messenger or text at least 2 times a week. We are long distance right now.

~ Anonymous

Sexy Maid Ready to Sanitize

During quarantine – I still go to work as my company is considered under essential category, one of the rule I have made is for her to be ready at the door in sexy maid’s outfit with cleaning supplies to get me sanitized as I get inside.

Punishment for Not Checking In

Long time and distances apart from my owner are very frequent. Master has instructed me to add a clause: “If slave exceeds 3 days without ‘checking in/contact’ with owner, then owner shall make public any pictures/videos of slave”. Being known that owner does posses multiple pictures/videos of ‘dog’ being humiliated and/or punished.

~ Slavedog B

One Rule I Enjoy During Quarantine

My daddy and I are long distance, so quarantine hasn’t changed much, and our rules and punishments are, unfortunately, rather vanilla… But, one that I enjoy is the punishment of no masturbation for a set amount of time or, even better, masturbation with orgasm for a set amount of time. I enjoy these types punishments, because they make me think of my daddy even when we’re not together.

~ baby boy jaye

Master’s Requirements for Check Ins

  1. baby boy must call or text Daddy/Master and say good night every day.

This is important to help build a bond and closeness that we can’t currently have physically.

  1. baby boy must tell Daddy/Master if he is sick, or has done something that might negatively affect his health.

Important because he doesn’t take good care of himself.

~ KaiRowan