Staying at home, social distancing, hearing and seeing the words “difficult times” everywhere you look is getting a little old and sending many of us stir-crazy.
Thankfully, restrictions are starting to ease in many places. Though some of you may still choose to self isolate.
Whether you are still impacted, keeping your power exchange strong may need a little more motivation and some fresh thinking.
A few weeks back, I reached out and asked what rules you are implementing during these, shall we say “times of opportunity”. I promised I would share the list of rules with you.
I apologize it took me a little longer than expected. The more I thought about it, a simple list just didn’t seem good enough.
So, here is a fun platform to get rule ideas, save your favorite ones and share yours to inspire others.
I hope you like it! More ideas and topics coming soon…
Short and Sweet BDSM Rule Ideas (During and Post Lockdown)
Here are some some quick rule ideas for long distance (LDR) and live-in power exchange relationships.
They are written in a formal way so you can simply add them to your contract or agreement if you have one. If not, use them for ideas any way you wish.
Your Panties, My Choice
A very common rule (never gets old).
The submissive shall take a photo of ALL her panties and shall forward such images to the Dominant as directed (WhatsApp, Email, Dropbox etc.), for the Dominant’s safekeeping.
By 8 a.m. each day, the Dominant shall select which pair is to be worn by the submissive that day. If no selection is communicated, no panties shall be worn.
By 9 a.m. each day, the submissive shall provide evidence of her compliance by taking a photo of herself wearing the selected panties (including the days where no selection is made).
Good Night Story
Daddy will read littlegirl a good night story of her choice every night, limited to 10 minutes of reading time or one chapter, whichever is shorter.
Due to time differences, Daddy will record the reading and send it to lg to listen to at bed time.
Libido Upkeep
The submissive is required to masturbate and bring herself to climax at least three times per week. Evidence in the form of a photo or video shall be forwarded to the Dominant within one hour of orgasm.
Bad News Limitation
The submissive is limited to watching news programs or otherwise consuming any news content to only half an hour per day. This is to keep the submissive’s anxiety at bay whilst staying informed about current events.
Hunting for Outings
The submissive will research and stay abreast of opportunities for taking a trip, going to events (kinky or vanilla) and hosting/attending social gatherings post Covid-19 restrictions. The Dominant shall be briefed as and when such information comes to light. This is important for mental health (having something to look forward to).
Positivity Through Mindfulness
By midday each day, slave will send Master a message listing 3 things she is either grateful for or things she has noticed and found particularly intriguing or beautiful that day.
Brain Food
The submissive will keep her mind active using documentaries, articles, books, podcasts or other learning tools to learn about kink and non-kink related topics.
Each day she will report back on what she has learned that day, advising the Dominant of at least 3 interesting points.
Genital Comforting Morning Ritual
Upon waking, the submissive will softly place their hand over their genitals whilst, at the same time, thanking the Dominant for their guidance. Masturbation is prohibited unless expressly allowed the night prior.
Why? Research has shown that touch is emotionally soothing. During this time of social distancing, it’s important for sub to feel connection. Plus, what better way to wake up than with a “naughty hug from your Dominant”.
Reaching Out
The submissive shall reach out to family or friends at least twice per week via video conference or phone call. In particular, the submissive shall focus on those who are in isolation.
Photos on Demand
The submissive will ensure he always dresses in a manner pleasing to the Dominant. The Dominant may request photos on demand at any time and may stipulate the body area or part to be photographed.
Subject to the submissive’s work commitments, the submissive must promptly comply with such a command, by taking a sexy, cheeky, funny or creative photo of himself or the area stipulated in the command and sending same to the Dominant within 20 minutes.
Self Tying Challenge
The parties shall take turns in self tying and sending a photo of the tie to the other. The other party must recreate the self-tie the following day.
Rule Ideas Submitted by Others
Perving on others rules can not only bring ideas, but can also help to alleviate feelings of isolation. Seeing what others are doing during quarantine, current stay at home orders and social distancing can bring back a sense of normality, community and inspiration to your BDSM relationship, even if you are miles apart or online only.
If you don’t see a name at the end of the rule, it means the person didn’t wish to be identified.
Before Daddy Gets Home
Best rule we have is that as i am quarantine i must do all the chores around the house before Daddy gets home. This includes the washing, dishes and cleaning. If this is all completed i will get a special gift and i get to pick what we do that night. If I don’t do it Daddy gets to return what ever he brought for me, he gets to chose what to do and if i am really naughty and don’t agree i get a spanking/physical punishment.
~ Daddy Dom/Little Girl
Mistress G’s Quarantine Rules
- Slave must wash Mistresses hands AND feet upon entering home dwelling;
- In order to keep Mistress in as little contact with the outside world as possible, slave must carry, push, pull, or pick up everything the mistress would in the outside world.
~ Mistress G
One Rule I Enjoy During Quarantine
My daddy and I are long distance, so quarantine hasn’t changed much, and our rules and punishments are, unfortunately, rather vanilla… But, one that I enjoy is the punishment of no masturbation for a set amount of time or, even better, masturbation with orgasm for a set amount of time. I enjoy these types punishments, because they make me think of my daddy even when we’re not together.
~ baby boy jaye
Rasia’s Long Distance Submissive Rules
I am required to journal daily my thoughts, ideas, and feelings, as well as, take two Spanish lessons on Duolingo. I also have daily themed pictures that I have to send to my Dominant. Sir and I are LDR so this is very important to us. I also let Him know when I leave and where I am going, as well as when I return home. He also picks out my clothes daily.
~ Rasia
Playing with Social Distancing
Keeping social distance in practice, a lot of rules and punishments are now given from a distance, supervised through video chat as much as possible. There are some times that we do still practice in person, however there are very strict provisions which must be accomplished beforehand, including a self quarantine of a minimum of 2 weeks without physical contact with anyone and even then playtime is restricted with how the virus is spread in mind.
Kitten’s After Hours Sensual Play Time
Of all the sensual BDSM things that my kitten & I do together, my absolute favorite moment is a mostly innocent act.
Every night , after dinner is cleaned up and children are settled, my kitten will join me in our “clubhouse”.
Most of the time I’ll command her to remove her clothes and take a slave position of my choosing.
She will remain in this position, with her intimate parts exposed to me, until released.
In that time I will tell her how beautiful she looks as I caress her with my crop.
Every now & again I’ll give her a good slap which causes her to gasp slightly. I love how she composes herself and falls back into the silky feel of the crop.
Eventually I’ll reach down to check her wetness, and that’s when she’ll really begin to moisten and purr.
Absolutely stunning.
~ Nick
Master’s Requirements for Check Ins
- baby boy must call or text Daddy/Master and say good night every day.
This is important to help build a bond and closeness that we can’t currently have physically.
- baby boy must tell Daddy/Master if he is sick, or has done something that might negatively affect his health.
Important because he doesn’t take good care of himself.
~ KaiRowan
Punishment for Not Checking In
Long time and distances apart from my owner are very frequent. Master has instructed me to add a clause: “If slave exceeds 3 days without ‘checking in/contact’ with owner, then owner shall make public any pictures/videos of slave”. Being known that owner does posses multiple pictures/videos of ‘dog’ being humiliated and/or punished.
~ Slavedog B
Sexy Maid Ready to Sanitize
During quarantine – I still go to work as my company is considered under essential category, one of the rule I have made is for her to be ready at the door in sexy maid’s outfit with cleaning supplies to get me sanitized as I get inside.
FB Messenger
We don’t have protocols or rituals yet. But he has asked me to make sure I check in by face book messenger or text at least 2 times a week. We are long distance right now.
~ Anonymous
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One idea that me and my partner have is that he (the sub) must hold an ice cube in his hand for however long it takes to melt whenever he plays up. This also prevents him from texting, like a form of a gag but over text, so I (the dominant) tell him all the naughty things I would’ve done to him…if he didn’t play up of course 😉