I wanted to share this rule and pet’s reasoning with you for two reasons.
The Importance of WHY
Firstly, it shows the importance of psychology behind everything you do in BDSM. Sure, it’s easy for a Dominant to say “you are to be naked at all times within the home”. But with an accompanying explanation of WHY it’s important to the D-type, the sub gains an insight into the type of dynamic and atmosphere the Dom is wishing to cultivate.
Without the explanation, the sub might just think the rule applies to make her feel vulnerable, or simply for the Dom’s sexual pleasure.
Whilst these are completely valid reasons, the rule loses its value because the intention behind it is misunderstood.
Knowing that the rule applies to make the parties feel closer and to act as a constant reminder of their bond puts a different spin on its application. Would you agree?
Maintaining a Close Connection
Secondly, the reasoning behind this rule shows that power exchange can be a loving experience that can create and maintain the deepest of connections.
A common misconception is that BDSM is all about torture, commands, punishment and control. Yes, these are certainly fun aspects for many, but it’s also about meaningful relationships, love, and respect for one another.
The words “not even fabric” between us speak so profoundly.
A Ritual of Closeness and Eyelashes
When I first started dating Sir (nearly two decades ago now), I still remember the feeling of wanting to be so close to him. We would lay there in bed, naked embracing and yet I wanted him closer and tighter. Apart from him entering me, I thought there was no other way of getting physically closer which made me kind of sad. Then, in desperation, I put my face to his cheek and brushed my eyelashes against his skin. He could feel my batting eyelashes against his cheekbone. It was an incredibly intimate moment for us.
Since then, if we are apart for an extended period or if we are feeling in need of closeness for whatever reason, we will lay together naked and recreate that intimate moment. It’s not a rule, or an expectation, but just a physical reminder for us that “I’m still here, I still love you”. A comforting that words rarely provide.
If you have a rule or a ritual that works to bring you closer, use that to your advantage.
There are so many distractions in the world that having something grounding, a meaningful rule, that can really offer you a beautiful escape, and remind you of your admiration for one another is something really to be cherished.
The Rule as Submitted by “my Lords pet”
my Lord has a rule that i am not allowed to wear any clothing while in our bedroom.
So, as soon as i enter i must remove all of my clothing.
There are a few exceptions like when we are leaving the house and maybe i forgot my purse or decide to change shoes on second thought, i am allowed to run in and retrieve what i need but it’s quick, so you get the idea.
Occasionally, i have fallen asleep with clothes on and i get in trouble for it.
The reason for this rule is because of the significance it places on my role in our bedroom.
my Lord owns me everywhere, all the time, but the one area where He first owned me and where it means the most to Him is in the sexual part of our relationship represented in our bedroom
It is where we reconnect, despite the stresses of the world.
It’s where we are in our purest form, at our most basic level. And in that, He wants nothing between us, not even fabric and even moreso He wants me to always be available to Him in that regard.
THIS is Excellent and I totally Agree with it! Sure a Dom/Master/Domme/Mistress can have the rule of “Naked at all times while in the Home” but that does kind of loose it’s potency. But make the BEDROOM a sort of… “HOLY GROUND” as it were… THAT Makes it VERY Special! To this I would only add that a “RULE” that I have ALWAYS Tried to have and Enforce is… “NO ARGUING IN THE BEDROOM”! The Bedroom IS a sort of Holy Ground/Holy Place. It is meant for Unwinding, Relaxing, Sleeping/Recharging and MOST Importantly LOVE MAKING and PLAYING! We Adults don’t do ENOUGH “PLAYING” or “PLAY TIME”! It seem like once we hit a certain age we think that “PLAY TIME” is ONLY for Children! NO! NOT SO! BECAUSE we Adults carry the BURDENS Of the WORLD On our shoulders, “PLAY TIME” becomes even MORE Important! THIS is WHY “HALLOWEEN” is starting to OUT SELL CHRISTMAS as the MOST that people spend during a Holiday Celebration! HALLOWEEN is the ONLY Time most adults feel it’s “OK” to Dress Up and “PLAY” and Become Someone Else! This is ALSO WHY We spend SO MUCH “ENTERTAINMENT MONIES” On MOVIES, and DVDs! Because we “PLAY” and/or Live Vicariously THROUGH the Actors and Stories that we WISH we could live ourselves! Renaissance Faire and Festivals AND Sci-Fi/Fantasy/Comic Book Conventions are also OTHER places that have Grown ALOT within the past 20 to 30 yrs. because it is a place were people can DRESS UP and PLAY!
I have been a Costumer/Historical Clothing and Pattern Maker and Corsettier for over 35 yrs. I have worked at MANY Renaissance Faires and Festivals, and I have made MANY Costumes for those events AND For Halloween, And Fetish/BDSM People, and for “PONY PLAY”. and SCI-FI/FANTASY people, and I can tell you there is a HUGE Market for this stuff BECAUSE people YEARN to “PLAY” Like we used to as Adults! I myself have a “PONY MASTER” Outfit complete with Ridding Boots, Jodhpurs, and Black Leather and Velvet “Swordsman’s Shirt”. I also have my 16th, Century “IRISH NOBLEMAN’S Costume”, an AWESOME “WEREWOLF” costume and have spent the past 2 yrs. putting together the ULTIMATE “DARTH VADER” Costume!
So “PLAY TIME” is an IMPORTANT Aspect of Our LifeStyle… DON’T FORGET to set aside TIME to DO SO! 😀
Lord MacTire {The Irish Wolf}
This is a very beautiful and intimate rule. Her Highness has instructed that her little girl be clad only in locked chastity cage with a large glass plug worn. This is to demonstrate submission to her authority, and to convey her protection. It still permits the exercise of some power, so that she will be served according to her wishes, needs and desires. While not clothed in the home (unless preparing for work or going outside the house), both articles are to be worn at all times as a discreet reminder that wherever her submissive may be, Her Highness occupies her mind and body.
Hope you are doing well and healthy!
Thank you for keeping me updated with such amazing topics.
This one is something really new and a little delicate rule, more suitable for single subs, if you know what I mean.😊
It is a really good one in my opinion and it should be used to profound more a relationship between Dom and Subs.
Stay safe and take care.
Best regards😘
really love reading this the bed room is like a dungeon on its own where some use it in bdsm but for some the mood where just intermance can be share my self iam chasten 24/7 and yes Mistress i live the lifestyle of chastity even as old pup still learning and exploring but the bedroom is place of its own